You know when you see someone you care about at a party, but then they’re gone?
You’ve probably noticed that it’s pretty obvious they’re in a relationship.
“I was always a bit worried about getting involved with someone new because I didn’t want to ruin their reputation,” says the 23-year-old, who describes herself as “very social” and “lazy”.
“I didn’t really feel like I had the right to ask the question.
I wanted to be a partner to the person.”
For most people, that’s a pretty safe bet.
But if you’re one of those people, the temptation is to make things more awkward than they need to be.
Here’s what you need to know to make sure you’re not in the wrong.
Why should I be in a romantic relationship?
“You need to have some kind of commitment with them,” says Laura Burch, a 30-year business consultant from Melbourne who has worked with people from all walks of life.
“They need to commit to a future together.
You need to feel safe that they’ll be able to get through this.”
You can also avoid falling for a romance-as-sugar-coated scam by choosing to not be a “second-class citizen” by taking on their responsibilities for themselves, Burch says.
“You’re not taking on the responsibility of making sure that the other person has the money, or the house, or that they’re not getting sick or injured.
You’re just getting on with the job and the day.”
So what can you do if you’ve been left hanging?
“Don’t fall for that,” Burch advises.
“Ask yourself, ‘Is this relationship going to last for the duration of this relationship?'”
And make sure the relationship is a real commitment.
“The best thing you can do is just say yes to everything and then try to make it work.”
How to tell if your partner is in a genuine romantic relationship with you